All About Bridesmaids’ Luncheons

How about a gathering with the girls one last time before the main event…

Bridesmaids Luncheon

Bridesmaids Luncheon

Let’s face it: Weddings go by in such a blur that after the dishes have cleared and the flowers begin to wilt, many brides realize they never really had a chance to spend some quality time with their nearest and dearest. That’s what makes bridesmaids’ luncheons so great: They afford the perfect opportunity to get together and enjoy some time with your closest girlfriends one last time before the main event. They’re entirely optional, but this fun and typically hassle-free soiree is definitely worth your while. So what does it entail? 

Think of the bridesmaids’ luncheon or tea like a reverse bridal shower in which you’re now the hostess. The etiquette surrounding the bridesmaids’ luncheon is pretty flexible, so feel free to adapt to suit your needs. The “luncheon” can be dinner, brunch, an afternoon of pampering at the nearby spa, or a group activity of some kind.

Obviously all of the bridesmaids and junior bridesmaids will be in attendance, along with your mom and your fiancé’s mom. Other attendees may include your close female relatives – sisters, cousins, aunts – as well as any flower girls. Regardless, it’s usually best to try to keep it intimate. This may be one of the few times during the whirlwind wedding weekend when you can relax and enjoy some close, quiet time with the special women in your life. Think of it as a bittersweet, fond farewell.

Unlike showers, bridesmaids’ luncheons aren’t typically centered around planned games and activities. The one constant is that you thank your bridesmaids, either formally in a prepared speech or toast, or one-on-one throughout the event. The luncheon is also a great time to present your bridesmaids’ gifts, along with any gifts to the moms and grandmothers in attendance.

You have a life, Now a wedding

  

Wedding Planning

Wedding Planning

 

It’s 10 a.m. on a busy weekday morning at your job, and you have a mountain of paperwork on your desk—but what are you doing, you’re surfing the Net for a wedding cake designer. The big day is getting closer, and you have a lot of preparation still to do. Now what?  If you play on the net, don’t the work done, you might just find yourself out of a job and then who would pay for the wedding.  

You have a job. You have a life. Now you have a wedding to plan. Here are a few  tips to help you get it all done (without messing up!).  

Successfully managing a project, like a wedding, is all about organization.  

  1. There are plenty of tools available to help you do just that—and minimize the possibility of wasting precious time. Many brides like to use wedding-planning books that have helpful checklists and worksheets.
  2. One way is to keep a binder that includes separate folders for all the information you gather about your wedding ceremony, reception, vendors, bridal party, guest list and finances. As your wedding-day draws closer, get another binder to hold separate folders that contain contact information for all your vendors (including cell-phone numbers), final tallies for guest lists, seating arrangements, schedules and any other pertinent information that you just may need for your wedding day.
  3. Get to the office early (yes, you can!). If you’re at your desk before everyone else gets in, you’ll have a chance to send out some e-mails to vendors and get the ball rolling. Make a couple of follow-up calls on your coffee break. If you commute to work (by bus, train or ferry), make use of this time to go over contracts or to update your to-do list. Have a doctor’s appointment? Take along samples of wedding photographers’ work to go over while you wait.
  4. Many busy brides are going high-tech to get the help they need. Wedding-related computer programs, like weddingsoft.com and fivestarsoftware.com, allow you to keep track of expenses, the guest list and your deadlines.
  5. Delegate.

Guest List Dilemma

Preparing your guest list

Preparing your guest list

Q” My fiance and I are trying to trim the guest list.  I have several cousins who have never met my fiance and whom I haven’t seen in years.  Do I have to invite them?  Can I invite one, but not all of them?

A” Since you haven’t seen these cousins in many years and they’ve never met your fiance, you are certainly not obligated to invite them to your wedding.  If you’re trying to limit your guest list, then only invite those family members and friends who are closest to you.  However, I do think it would be odd to invite just one cousin from a family and not the parents or other siblings.  My advice:  Leave your distant cousins off the list entirely to void any complications.

Wedding Theme

Mardi Gras Themes

Mardi Gras Themes

Q: Can we choose a Mardi Gras Theme for our January wedding, even though Mardi Gras takes place in February or March?

A: Go for it:  There’s no reason not to celebrate with a Mardi Gras themed party at any time of the year.  The colors, festivity and joy of the traditional Mardi Gras are perfect for a fun-

New Wedding Traditions

Why not make your wedding your own using some the the following new wedding traditions?

New Wedding Traditions
New Wedding Traditions
  1. group photo of all the guests
  2. menu of Grandma’s recipes
  3. family serenades
  4. combined ethnic cuisines
  5. favorite professors as officiants
  6. presenting the bouquet to instead of tossing it to the girls
  7. dancing to your parents’ first dance song
  8. using herbs from your backyard in your bouquet
  9. toast by friend from each stage of life: i.e. childhood, elementary school, high school, college, work
  10. table of family photos

Want to personalize your wedding/party

Personal Postage Stamps

Personal Postage Stamps

How about fancy postage?  You can have your picture, monogram, names, etc. on “real” US postage stamps.  This would be make you invitations, thank yous, etc. so much more personal.  You can find customized stamps at http://www.perfectpostage.com

Keep Guest Entertained at Church

Have your wedding planner or a member of your bridal party provide little bubble blowers for your guests while they’re waiting for you to emerge after the ceremony. Bubbles flying in the air lend a very festive mood, plus everyone will have fun blowing them!

Want a different kind of wedding march?

Instead of marching down the aisle to the tune of Mendelssohn’s “Bridal Chorus”, you can choose to have your favorite instrumental music played. If you really want to be non-traditional, you could even have some bouncy pop music or even rock music playing instead. Mind you, this is bound to surprise a few of your guests.